Author/Editor		Košiček, Marijan
Title		Ljubezen in spolnost v starosti
Translated title		Love and sexuality in old age
Type		članek
Source		Zdrav Vars
Vol. and No.		Letnik 36, št. 9-10
Publication year		1997
Volume		str. 391-2
Language		slo
Abstract		There is no upper age limit concerning sexual desire (libido) and the need to be loved. Therefore the elderly people can be sexually active and have successful love relationships which contribute a lot to their physical and mental health. Nevetheless, they have quite often complaints in this regard. Men most often seek help in connection with potency disorders. Possible causes are: ageing, chronic condition, e. g. diabetes, excessive medication e. g. use of sedatives, alcohol, most often, however, discontentment with marriage, weariness of partner (spouse), coolness regarding spouse, also longer lack of an intimate contact with woman, ambosexuality, unadequate sexual relationship, etc. Therapy must be partly physical but always also psychological. Preventive help for a middle-aged man with such sexual-love life that later on will become critical if not corrected, is much more useful. Women often become too early passive: they do not enjoy having sexual intercourse or they refuse it at all, mostly owing to chronic disappointment in marriage without love and owing to lack of courage to leave the unsuitable marriage. Sometimes they stump into unbecoming sexual relationships which are often even more mentally burdening. Help must be psychotherapeutical; it is much more effective if it is preventive, i. e. before the ageing of woman.
Summary		Spolno poželenje in potreba po ljubezni nimata zgornje starostne meje. Zato so lahko starejši ljudje še spolno dejavni in imajo uspešna ljubezenska razmerja oz. zakone, kar zelo prispeva k njihovemu telesnemu in duševnemu zdravju. Vendar se pogosto pritožujejo nad težavami pri tem. Moški največkrat iščejo pomoč zaradi motenj potence. Možni vzroki so: staranje, kronična bolezen, npr. sladkorna bolezen, pretirano jemanje zdravil, npr. sedativov, alkohol, napogosteje pa nezadovoljstvo z zakonom, naveličanost partnerice, hladnost ali odklonilnost do nje, tudi daljše pomanjkanje intimnega stika z žensko, ambiseksualnost, neprimerno spolno razmerje itd. Zdravljenje mora biti delno somatsko, vedno tudi psihološko. Veliko uspešnejša je preventivna pomoč moškemu srednjih let s takšnim spolnoljubezenskim življenjem, ki lahko kasneje postane kritično, če ga ne popravi. Ženske se pogosto prezgodaj spolno pasivizirajo: ne uživajo več pri spolnem odnosu ali ga sploh odklanjajo, največkrat zaradi kroničnega razočaranja nad zakonom brez ljubezni in zaradi pomanjkanja poguma, da bi zapustile zgrešen zakon. Včasih se spuščajo v neprimerna spolna razmerja, ki jih pogosto še bolj duševno obremenijo. Pomoč mora biti psihoterapevtska; veliko učinkovitejša pa je, če je preventivna, tj. preden se ženska postara.
Descriptors		SEX BEHAVIOR SEXUALITY LOVE AGED